When you have a flat chest, you can (and should) wear whatever the F*@! you want.
Let me explain.
See, if you don’t know much about me, then you won’t know that I had breast implants for 10 years.
I got them in when I was 17 (almost 18), AND I had them removed about 2 years ago (October 2017).
Long story short, I got them removed for health reasons. If you aren’t aware of Breast Implant Illness (BII) and Anaplastic Large Cell Lymphoma (and you have implants, know someone who does, or are considering them yourself), then I HIGHLY suggest you take a look at my blog post series on Why I Removed My Implants.
I feel more confident now than I ever did with implants. I think a lot of that has to do with the personal growth I have been focusing on over the last few years along with a healthy dose of self-love and appreciation for a healthy body.
I reached a breaking point in my life (this was before removing the implants even) when I decided that things had to change. I was just letting life happen to me instead of creating a life that I loved and wanted. You can read more about How I Changed My Life here.
It’s ALL connected.
I started traveling more and living life on my own terms (still a work in progress…always), but I know that helped with my confidence.
I took control of the health issues that I had been having for 10+ years and got my breast implants removed.
I’d be lying, though, if I said that having a flat chest does not bother me at times…I’m only human after all. Sometimes I feel self-conscious or nervous about it. Perhaps that’s why I indulged in a little too much liquid courage at the bar the other night? Could have also been due to the fact that I only ate a potato for dinner that night. I knew that was dumb at the time, but I just wasn’t hungry. Oh well.
I think a lot of people feel like if you have a flat chest, then you need to wear loose clothing or baggy flowy tops to hide the fact that you’re flat.
I don’t think you should hide. Don’t be afraid to wear a tight fitting top (even if it means that it’s painfully obvious how flat you are). Own it. Rock it. Walk in there with confidence. If that cute guy at the bar isn’t going to talk to you because your chest isn’t big enough, then FUCK HIM (and not in a good way).
Be you, and you will attract the right people to you. That’s my philosophy anyway, and so far I feel like it rings very true.
Why do you want someone who’s attracted to a fake version of you anyway?
If you like wearing loose/flowy tops, then do that. Do what makes you feel happy and comfortable.
But what I’m trying to say here is, don’t hide. That’s not a way to live your life.
The beauty of having a small chest is that your boobs aren’t going to fall out! You have so many options of what you can wear. You can go braless and totally get away with it.
I think when you wear looser/baggier fitting clothes around the boob area (and you’re flat of course), that just makes it worse. It makes things look saggy. It’s better to fill out the top you choose even if that means looking flat.
I do have these “nippies” that I bought on Amazon a couple of years ago (5 years ago?). I just recently bought a second pair. They are seriously the best invention EVER. Way better than anything else out there. Check them out. Seriously.
The other night, I went to the bar (the night where I only ate a potato before going out). I wore a top that I bought when I had implants. It is form fitting and has a zigzag design going down the front. I put it on and was painfully aware of how flat I looked, but other than that I felt good. This was the first time I wore it out since removing my implants. I was gonna put my nippies on before heading out, but they can make my boobs look kinda funny. (They’re not exactly the same as they were before implants.) So I said, “Fuck it.” And I went without.
I did feel a little self-conscious at first, but I got over it quick. I had a blast, and there were plenty of guys trying to dance with me and buy me drinks. (Not that male attention should impact your self-worth…that’s a topic for a separate blog post too.) What I’m trying to say is that it’s all about your energy and confidence.
My favorite place to shop for cute tops (and body suits) is Express.
You can also find clothes that accentuate your other assets too (if you know what I’m saying). Draw attention to and play up other areas if you’re self-conscious about your chest. I love wearing tops that have a sexy back.
There are lots of options for bras now for flat chested women, too, that didn’t exist when I was a teen struggling with body image issues.
I haven’t personally tried all of these, but these are a few of the sites that I have come across.
Honestly, my breasts are so small, I’m not sure there’s a “real” bra that’s going to work for me.
I wear a lot of bralettes.
I have also noticed that with a small chest, I need cups that are spaced further apart…especially post explant surgery.
Know that whatever your size is at Victoria’s Secret, it’s probably (most definitely) going to be different at different places. Make sure you look up and follow their measuring guides. Victoria’s Secret doesn’t have bras that are small enough for me.
Here are some of the sites that I have found:
We Are Pepper (This one is next on my list to try)
Sites that have cute bralettes:
It’s also my dream one day to start a line of bras, lingerie, and clothing for flat chested women. I think if more of this had been readily available when I was a teen, I wouldn’t have turned to implants to begin with. I just want women to feel beautiful in their own skin.
Sincerely yours,
Alyssa
President of the IBTC
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